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[Danielle La Belle]

Lesson 10:

01. Spend 80% of your time on the solution. Only 20% of your time on the problem.

With the problem defined, stop trying to define it over and over. You know what the problem is. Start working on the solution. The problem is defined and clearly known, going in circles is not going to change the problem.

02. Manage your state of mind.

When you find yourself dwelling on the problem, stand up, look at the ceiling and grin! Yes, put a big grin on your face! No one is watching you so do it! See …. It is hard to get depressed doing that. You may feel stupid but it breaks the pattern of depression and relentlessly thinking about your problem. You simply cannot feel depressed when looking at the ceiling and grinning! Try it! No, this cannot cure medical depression, sorry, but it has been used in therapy with some success.

03. Keep a sharp focus 80/20!

If you slip up, that’s okay. Get back on track with your 80% solution, 20% problem method. It works for those that make it work when they are ready! Pain is to great not to do something about the problem!

04. You try something that does not work.

Try something else. If it fails, try something else. There is no “I give up” option. Try and try again.

The famous 5 questions to Problem solving:

01. What could be great about this?

02. What’s not perfect yet?

03. What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?

04. What am I willing to no longer do, in order to have things the way I want them?

05. How can I do what’s necessary to get the job done and enjoy the process?

Decide on what you want. Get a plan to get there. Take actions the lead directly toward your goals. Be flexible. Change your approach if you see it is not working.

Hugs

Danielle Marie

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Make the most of every day!

[Danielle La Belle]

Hi Girls:

What have I done on this plan.

01. Automated all bills.
02. Email billing statements only.
03. Electronic Banking (secured).
04. New brokerage accounts.
05. New business web site.

http://www.rfta-dh.com

email: danielle_marie@rfta-dh.com
(fem mail)

06. EBAY and PAYPAL Accounts.
07. Exercise 3 times each day - fitness walking (1.0 mile) each trip.
08. Review daily goals each morning.
09. Review weekly goals every 2 days and change where applicable.
10. Head up, shoulders back, er, ah, chest out... and breath deeply.

Received 2 calls this week about jobs. One interview set up for next week.

Army of One! Down but not out!

Hugs

Danielle Marie

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[April Rose]

You go, girl!
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I am a vessel of the Goddess. Let me express my calling to a feminine life through nurturing love and relatedness.

[Danielle La Belle]

YES!

I am woman ... hear me ROAR!

I think I can .... I think I can ..... I know I can..... Done!

Hugs

Danielle Marie

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[Leeza]

go girl go. We know you can.

Leeza
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[Danielle La Belle]

Hi Girls:

This was written by someone with 45 years experience in the business of listening to others.

TEN COMMON CAUSES OF FAILURE


01. BLAME OTHERS

02. BLAME ONESELF

03. HAVE NO GOALS

04. CHOOSING THE WRONG GOALS

05. THE SHORT CUT

06. TAKING THE LONG ROAD

07. NEGLECTING THE LITTLE THINGS

08. QUITING TOO SOON

09. THE BURDEN OF THE PAST

10. THE ILLUSION OF SUCCESS


I keep a copy posted by the light switch in my room!

Hugs

Danielle Marie

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Make the most of every day!